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My good feelings about who I am stem from being loved by you.
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2.
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My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
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3.
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Your struggle affects my serenity.
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4.
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My mental attention focuses on solving your problems.
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5.
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My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.
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6.
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My mental attention is focused on protecting you.
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7.
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My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.
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8.
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My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
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My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies. Your clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
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10.
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Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
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11.
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I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel.
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12.
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I am not aware of what I want—I ask what you want. I am not aware—I assume.
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13.
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The dreams I have for my future are linked to you.
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14.
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My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.
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15.
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My fear of your anger determines what I say or do.
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16.
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I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.
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17.
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My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.
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I put my values aside in order to connect with you.
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19.
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I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.
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20.
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The quality of my life is in direct relation to the quality of yours.
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